Reaching your goals in midlife isn’t just about wanting change; it’s about committing to it. Whether it’s losing weight, paying off debt, traveling more, building new friendships, or starting a new business, the key is not just setting the goal but being unwaveringly committed to reaching it. Let’s dive into how you can transform your midlife dreams into reality by embracing grit, self-trust, and a no-excuses attitude.
Here’s the hard truth: wanting a goal is easy; committing to it is hard. It requires grit—unshakable determination to persevere, even when things get uncomfortable. In midlife, achieving goals takes more than desire; it takes deliberate action, self-awareness, and resilience.
• Know who you are: Trust yourself and validate your desires. Being committed starts with being someone who believes in their worth.
• Ditch the excuses: Excuses don’t get results; actions do.
• Get comfortable with discomfort: Growth doesn’t happen in the comfort zone. Be willing to face the hard stuff.
By midlife, you’ve likely experienced your share of frustrations with goal-setting. You might wonder why it feels more complicated now than in your 20s or 30s. Studies show that adults over 40 are less likely to pursue long-term goals because of decreased confidence in their ability to succeed (Heckhausen, Wrosch, & Schulz, 2010). But here’s the good news: confidence grows through action, not vice versa.
We often quit on our goals because we:
• Want instant results and get discouraged when progress is slow.
• Let self-doubt creep in and believe those negative thoughts.
• Stay committed to comfort rather than to growth.
But here’s a mindset shift: be more committed to self-love than self-doubt.
Reinventing yourself in midlife requires a clear vision, laser focus, and ruthless commitment. Ask yourself:
1. What do I want?
2. Why do I want it?
3. Am I willing to do whatever it takes to get it?
4. Do I trust myself to follow through?
Clarity is power. Write down your goal every single day. Check in with yourself each night. Reflect on your progress. Writing your goals improves your chances of success by 42% (Matthews, 2015). Why? Because it keeps your focus sharp and your commitment alive.
Here’s how to move from wanting to doing:
1. Treat Your Goal Like a Newborn Baby
Your goal needs your undivided attention. As a newborn demands care, energy, and patience, so does your dream. You can’t neglect it for a single day.
2. Show Up Like Your Future Self
Visualize the woman who has already achieved the goal. How does she think, act, and make decisions? Start embodying her today.
3. Build a No-Excuses Routine
Success is built on habits. Every single day, no matter what, take action toward your goal. No excuses. No complaints. This consistency builds trust in yourself.
4. Prioritize Effort Over Perfection
You don’t have to get it right every time. You just have to keep going. Progress over perfection is the name of the game.
5. Hire Help If Needed
Investing in a life coach or mentor can accelerate your progress. Coaches help you identify blind spots, break self-doubt, and stay accountable. Research shows that coaching improves goal achievement rates by up to 80% (Grant, 2014).
Let me share a personal example. I don’t leap out of bed thrilled to go to the gym at 5 a.m. But I do it because I love the results—a more substantial body, a clearer mind, and a more profound sense of self-trust. Every gym session is a deposit into my confidence bank. And guess what? Those deposits add up.
If you could achieve one goal right now, what would it be? Ask yourself:
• How badly do I want it?
• Am I willing to be obsessed with it?
• Will I prioritize it over everything else?
Your goal should feel like the most important thing you’ve ever done. That level of focus changes everything.
Once you achieve one goal, it creates momentum. The joy and energy from reaching that milestone fuel your desire to tackle the next one. Success is addictive—and it’s contagious.
To reach your goals in midlife:
1. Decide what you want.
2. Commit like your life depends on it.
3. Take daily action, no matter how small.
4. Celebrate every victory.
Remember, you’re not just achieving goals but reinventing your life. Be the woman of your dreams—she’s already inside you, waiting for you to commit.
Midlife is the perfect time to redefine yourself and what you want. Your dreams are valid, your goals are worth the effort, and your future self will thank you for the grit and love you invest today.
Reinvent your life, show up for yourself, and be obsessed with your goals. The best version of you is just one commitment away.
Love, Jax
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References:
• Heckhausen, J., Wrosch, C., & Schulz, R. (2010). A motivational theory of life-span development. Psychological Review, 117(1), 32–60.
• Matthews, G. (2015). GoalsResearch: How does writing them down make you more likely to succeed?
• Grant, A. M. (2014). The efficacy of executive coaching in times of organizational change. Journal of Change Management, 14(2), 258-280.
Age 49, Down 200 lbs naturally.
90 more pounds to loose.
My early 6am Saturday morning routine including stretching, strength training, quick breakfast and walking.
Wake 5am
Hydrate
Wash Face
Brush Teeth
Check Emails
Dress
Stretch
Vibration Plate
Gym 6am
Weight Machines
Sauna
Breakfast-Cold Brew Black & Egg Bites
Home
News
Walk Outside
Then 8am ready for the day 👟♥️😘
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Free Newsletter & Guides in link in bio.
Soon to come glowgetter retreats in SC & CO.
Oh and remember it is never too late to create a life and lifestyle you love.
Live a life you’d want to live twice.
Love, Jax
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I have lost 200 lbs naturally.
I have obtained a new corporate position make $35k more per year in project management and this is what I`m implementing at my in person job for wellness, longevity and weight loss.
✅ stand-up desk
✅ elliptical under the desk
I am going to search for a stand-up desk on facebook marketplace to save money. I am going to get a life pro elliptical from Amazon.
Hope this helps anyone looking to improve their health while having a sedentary job.
I have another 90 lbs to lose and hopefully this will help some to get me there.
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Free Newsletter & Guides in link in bio.
Soon to come glowgetter retreats in SC & CO.
Oh and remember it is never too late to create a life and lifestyle you love.
Live a life you’d want to live twice.
Love, Jax
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Please answer the poll, I need your help.
If you could create your dream life in midlife what would you focus on the most?
Age 49, Down 200 lbs naturally, paid down $45k in debt, new career in project management, life coach certified. This is by far my best, highest and most productive season of my life.
Midlife-My best season yet...
Come follow and join the party for real life motivation and inspiration in wellness, weight loss, mindset and lifestyle.
Soon to come a midlife women`s glow-up online community and glow-up retreats in Charleston SC.
Podcast - The Midlife Glowgetter
Website: www.jaxstys.com
Free Newsletter & Guides in link in bio.
Soon to come glowgetter retreats in SC & CO.
Oh and remember it is never too late to create a life and lifestyle you love.
Live a life you’d want to live twice.
Love, Jax
#womenover40
#midlifereinvention
#weightlossjourney
#healthylifestyle
#midlifewomen
Age 49, Down 200 lbs naturally, paid down $45k in debt, new career in project management, life coach certified. This is by far my best, highest and most productive season of my life.
Midlife-My best season yet...
Come follow and join the party for real life motivation and inspiration in wellness, weight loss, mindset and lifestyle.
Soon to come a midlife women`s glow-up online community and glow-up retreats in Charleston SC.
Podcast - The Midlife Glowgetter
Website: www.jaxstys.com
Free Newsletter & Guides in link in bio.
Soon to come glowgetter retreats in SC & CO.
Oh and remember it is never too late to create a life and lifestyle you love.
Live a life you’d want to live twice.
Love, Jax
#womenover40
#midlifereinvention
#glowupafter40
#transformyourlife
#midlifewomen
Starting to plan a trip solo to Charleston SC in January or February.
Flying this time.
Now is my time and I`m going to make each moment count.
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Podcast - The Midlife Glowgetter
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Free Newsletter & Guides in link in bio.
Soon to come glowgetter retreats in SC & CO.
Oh and remember it is never too late to create a life and lifestyle you love.
Live a life you’d want to live twice.
Love, Jax
#womenover40
#midlifereinvention
#glowupafter40
#transformyourlife
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Midlife awakening and midlife reinvention I a real thing.
I did not have a midlife crisis…I had a midlife glow-up.
I have lost nearly 200 lbs mostly naturally.
I have paid off over $45K in debt as a single mom, single income household with a son away in college.
I have obtained a new corporate position make $35k more per year.
I have become a certified life coach by The Life Coach School.
All of these milestones the last 4 years have completely upgraded my confidence and mindset and growth as a woman over 40.
I feel like I have really come to my own and created my dream life. I am still working and creating my dream life everyday.
I have another 90 more pounds to loose. I want to work on certifications for my career and here online. Nutrition and Wellness Certifications I am working on with NASM. I want to become a Master Certified Life Coach.
I want to continue to help women over 40 all over the world to create the life of their dreams with support and a strong community. I want to create a monthly paid online community and app and in-person midlife glow-up retreats. I want to reach more women on my free podcast and free weekly newsletter.
I want to help you, my friend.
Follow me for real life motivation and inspiration in wellness, weight loss, mindset and lifestyle.
I hope you have an amazing day today and I look forward to meeting you in my future community, retreats or here online in the comments.
Podcast - The Midlife Glowgetter
Website: www.jaxstys.com
Free Newsletter & Guides in link in bio.
Soon to come glowgetter retreats in SC & CO.
Oh and remember it is never too late to create a life and lifestyle you love.
Live a life you’d want to live twice.
Love, Jax
#womenover40
#midlifereinvention
#glowupafter40
#transformyourlife
#midlifewomen
I lost 198 lbs in the last 4 years naturally as a single mom, working full time in corporate finance.
I was on weight loss medication for 3 months, got off it because of cost and side effects.
I have anther 90 lbs to go to reach my goal weight.
Back at the gym after 3 months off.
Hope this helps someone move their body today.
Follow for midlife wellness, lifestyle, & mindset inspiration and motivation.
Love, Jax
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I lost 198 lbs in the last 4 years naturally as a single mom, working full time in corporate finance.
I was on weight loss medication for 3 months, got off it because of cost and side effects.
I have anther 90 lbs to go to reach my goal weight.
This is my meal plan for 9/14-9/18.
Hope this helps..
Follow for midlife wellness, lifestyle, & mindset inspiration and motivation.
Love, Jax
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Your subconscious mind is always listening. Every thought you repeat becomes a belief. Every belief becomes your reality. If you keep focusing on what`s missing, the bank account, the age, the excuses, that`s exactly what you`ll keep creating more of.
These were my early morning thoughts this morning on my sunrise walk in the Metroparks here near Cleveland Ohio.
I hope you have an amazing day today.
Podcast - The Midlife Glowgetter
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Free Newsletter & Guides in link in bio.
Soon to come glowgetter retreats in SC & CO.
Follow to get inspired to transform and reinvent into the woman of your dreams.
It is never too late!
Love, Jax
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I lost 200 lbs in the last 4 years naturally as a single mom, working full time in corporate finance.
I was on weight loss medication for 3 months, got off it because of cost and side effects.
I have anther 80 lbs to go to reach my goal weight.
My supplements I take:
Loam Fiber Powder, Electroytes (sugar free), Pearl Powder in Water with Ice.
Lifecykel Mushroom Oils in black expresso
Vitamin D3K2
Omega 3
Fatty 15
NMN
Floraster Probiotic
Today’s Food
Breakfast: Homemade Protein Bars (27g protein, 12g finer, 6g sugar)
Lunch: Chipotle Chicken (Costco), cilantro lime cauliflower rice
Dinner: Factor Meal with Fresh Blueberries
Movement Today:
4:30am
Stretching
Vibration Plate
Arm-Dumbbells
Squats
Lunges
Disstastis Recti
Walk 35 min. (Japanese Style)
12:30pm After Lucnh
Walk 20 min. (Japanese Style)
6pm After Dinner
Walk 20 min. (Japanese Style)
8pm
Thigh Master 20 min. while reading/watching tv
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Love, Jax
#midlifewellness #weightlossjourney #womenover40 #healthylifestyle #midlifereinvention
I lost 200 lbs in the last 4 years naturally as a single mom, working full time in corporate finance.
I was on weight loss medication for 3 months, got off it because of cost and side effects.
I have anther 80 lbs to go to reach my goal weight.
My supplements I take:
Loam Fiber Powder, Electroytes (sugar free), Pearl Powder in Water with Ice.
Lifecykel Mushroom Oils in black expresso
Vitamin D3K2
Omega 3
Fatty 15
NMN
Floraster Probiotic
Today’s Food
Breakfast: Homemade Protein Bars (27g protein, 12g finer, 6g sugar)
Lunch: Chipotle Chicken (Costco), cilantro lime cauliflower rice
Dinner: Factor Meal with Fresh Blueberries
Movement Today:
4:30am
Stretching
Vibration Plate
Arm-Dumbbells
Squats
Lunges
Walk 35 min. (Japanese Style)
12:30pm After Lucnh
Walk 20 min. (Japanese Style)
6pm After Dinner
Walk 20 min. (Japanese Style)
8pm
Thigh Master 20 min. while reading/watching tv
Follow for midlife wellness, lifestyle, & mindset inspiration and motivation.
Love, Jax
#midlifewellness #weightlossjourney #womenover40 #healthylifestyle #midlifereinvention
I lost 200 lbs in the last 4 years naturally as a single mom, working full time in corporate finance.
I was on Zepbound for 3 months, got off it because of cost and side effects.
I have anther 80 lbs to go to reach my goal weight.
My supplements I take:
Loam Fiber Powder, Electroytes (sugar free), Pearl Powder in Water with Ice.
Lifecykel Mushroom Oils in black expresso
Vitamin D3K2
Omega 3
Fatty 15
NMN
Probiotic/Prebiotic
Today’s Food
Breakfast: Homemade Protein Bars (27g protein, 12g finer, 6g sugar)
Lunch: Chipotle Chicken (Costco), cilantro lime cauliflower rice
Dinner: Factor Meal with Asparagus
Movement Today:
4:30am
Stretching
Vibration Plate
Arm-Dumbbells
Squats
Lunges
Walk 35 min. (Japanese Style)
12:30pm
Walk 20 min. (Japanese Style)
6pm
Walk 20 min. (Japanese Style)
8pm
Thigh Master 20 min. while reading/watching tv
Follow for Midlife wellness, lifestyle, & mindset inspiration and motivation.
Love, Jax
#midlifewellness #weightlossjourney #womenover40 #healthylifestyle #midlifereinvention
High-protein breakfast bars that don’t taste like cardboard? Say less. 🍫✨
I’ve been perfecting these homemade protein bars for a long time and I’m finally sharing the recipe — 25g protein, 12g fiber, and 5g creatine per bar, made with clean ingredients like peanut butter, cashew butter, and no added sugar. Basically breakfast met dessert and they had a baby.
Perfect for busy mornings, post-workout fuel, or when you need a midlife-metabolism-friendly snack that actually keeps you full. No fancy equipment, no baking — just mix, press, chill, and go.
Follow me for more high protein recipes, gut health tips, and midlife wellness hacks (minus the boring stuff nobody asked for).
Comment “RECIPE” below and I’ll send you the full tecipe with all ingredient links! 💌
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✨ Make Midlife Your Best Chapter!
Daily glow chat...
How I make midlife my best chapter yet.
Here are my tip for you:
Be more spontaneous 🎉
I am here to be a light in a season that can be looked at as stressful and lonely and depressing.
This should not be the case.
These tips are a field guide for the empty-nest, midlife, reinvention-ready woman.
🌸 Let`s glow in midlife together...
Love, Jax
#midlifewomen
#transformyourlife
#womenover40
#emptynest
#midlifejourney
✨ Make Midlife Your Best Chapter!
Daily glow chat...
How I make midlife my best chapter yet.
Here are my tip for you:
Redesign your home 🏡
I am here to be a light in a season that can be looked at as stressful and lonely and depressing.
This should not be the case.
These tips are a field guide for the empty-nest, midlife, reinvention-ready woman.
🌸 Let`s glow in midlife together...
Love, Jax
#midlifewomen
#transformyourlife
#womenover40
#emptynest
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I lost over 190 lbs, paid off $45K in debt, and completely rebuilt my life starting at 44, as a single mom, working full time in corporate finance.
…Why follow me
Real talk on health/weight loss after 40 that isn`t extreme or unsustainable
Money and debt payoff strategies that work on a real income, not a trust fund
Mindset and self-development tools from actual coaching training, not just platitudes
A peek into real estate/investing as you build that path too
A little style, beauty, and confidence-building along the way
The podcast and newsletter (The Midlife GlowGetter) and blog as the deeper-dive home base - check out my link in bio.
Follow along — this is just the beginning of my best chapter, and I want you to have yours too.
Love, Jax
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#transformyourlife
#womenover40
#emptynest
#midlifejourney
Make Midlife Your Best Chapter!
Daily glow chat...
How I make midlife my best chapter yet.
Here are my tip for you:
1 Guard your calendar 📆
I am here to be a light in a season that can be looked at as stressful and lonely and depressing.
This should not be the case.
These tips are a field guide for the empty-nest, midlife, reinvention-ready woman.
Let`s glow in midlife together...
Love, Jax
#midlifewomen
#transformyourlife
#womenover40
#emptynest
#midlifejourney
Down 199 lbs naturally in my 40’s.
Paid down $45k in debt.
This is how I transformed my midlife.
Now empty nester & single. I’m still not done. 80 more lbs to go. Want to create a community of like minded midlife women wanting to transform their life into the life of their dreams.
Podcast - The Midlife Glowgetter
Website: www.jaxstys.com
Free Newsletter & Guides in link in bio.
Soon to come glowgetter retreats in SC & CO.
Follow to get inspired to transform and reinvent into the woman of your dreams.
It is never too late!
Love, Jax
#womenover40
#midlifereinvention
#glowupafter40
#transformyourlife
#midlifewomen
