Hey beautiful,
Let me just say this loud and clear:
You are not too old.
You are not behind.
And it’s never too late to grow, change, or start over.
Whether you’re 40, 50, or fabulous at 60+, this season of your life is rich with possibility. The secret to unlocking that possibility?
A growth mindset.
In this post, we’re going to break down what it is, how to cultivate it (even if you’ve lived decades with a fixed one), and why it’s the secret sauce for a midlife glow-up—whether you’re focused on wellness, weight loss, career, finances, relationships, or rediscovery.
I’m walking this journey with you—
At 47, I’ve lost 147 pounds, paid off $32,000 in debt, improved my style and self-image, made new friendships, started a podcast, got a new job, and became a certified life coach through The Life Coach School.
And guess what?
None of that would’ve happened without building a growth mindset.
Let’s dive into how you can do the same.
The term growth mindset was coined by psychologist Dr. Carol Dweck, author of the book Mindset: The New Psychology of Success. According to Dweck:
“In a growth mindset, people believe that their most basic abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work—brains and talent are just the starting point.”
That means you can:
• Learn new skills at any age
• Bounce back from failure
• Adapt and evolve
• Become someone you’ve never been before
The opposite? A fixed mindset, which believes abilities are static, failure is final, and you’re either “good at it” or you’re not.
Midlife is the PERFECT time to rewrite this story. Why? Because now, we finally know what matters. We’ve survived stuff we never thought we could. And we have the wisdom to do it differently.
Most of us were raised in an era where perfection, people-pleasing, and playing it safe were praised. But midlife is a turning point. You’re craving more freedom, more authenticity, more YOU.
A growth mindset can help you:
• Reinvent your career
• Lose weight and get strong
• Learn new habits
• Improve relationships
• Build confidence
• Launch a new business or passion project
• Step into your purpose with bold energy
✨ The most important thing to know? You can change your mind—and your life—by changing the way you think.
Let’s call it out with love (because I’ve been there too):
• “I’m just not good at technology.”
• “It’s too late for me to start over.”
• “I’ve always been this way.”
• “I don’t have time to learn something new.”
• “What if I fail and look stupid?”
These beliefs are not facts. They’re old thought patterns—and they can be unlearned.
1. Become Aware of Your Current Beliefs
Your thoughts create your results.
Start noticing the stories you’re telling yourself.
Ask:
• Do I believe I can change?
• What do I believe about success and failure?
• Where in my life do I feel stuck?
💡 Journal Prompt:
“If I believed growth was possible for me, I would…”
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2. Reframe “Failure” as Feedback
People with growth mindsets don’t see failure as a dead end. They see it as information.
If something doesn’t work—whether it’s a diet, a relationship, or a business idea—it’s not proof that you’re broken. It’s proof that you tried, learned, and now you know more.
✨ Try this mindset shift:
Instead of “I failed,” say:
“I learned something valuable that’s going to help me do it better next time.”
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3. Start Saying “Yet”
Fixed mindset:
“I’m not good at budgeting.”
Growth mindset:
“I’m not good at budgeting yet—but I’m learning.”
This one small word adds HOPE and SPACE for progress. And midlife women? We are the queens of progress.
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4. Surround Yourself with Expanders
Growth is contagious.
So is fear.
If you want to build a new mindset, hang out (in real life or virtually) with women who are:
• Starting over
• Trying new things
• Speaking boldly
• Investing in themselves
• Refusing to shrink in midlife
• The High 5 Habit by Mel Robbins – teaches you to reprogram your inner dialogue
• The Mountain Is You by Brianna Wiest – explores self-sabotage and transformation
• On Purpose with Jay Shetty – especially episodes on reinvention
• The Midlife Glow Report (my own!) – where we talk real reinvention for real women
5. Try New Things—on Purpose
One of the fastest ways to build a growth mindset is to stretch outside your comfort zone on purpose.
That means:
• Trying a new workout
• Learning to budget or invest
• Starting a side hustle
• Taking a class
• Speaking up more
• Creating content
Every time you do something new, you prove to yourself:
I’m capable of growth.
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6. Celebrate Progress, Not Perfection
Perfectionism is fixed mindset’s best friend. Growth mindset celebrates effort.
Instead of “I’ll be happy when I’ve lost 50 lbs,” say:
“I’m proud of myself for walking today.”
Instead of “I didn’t stick to my budget perfectly,” say:
“I made better choices than last month.”
✨ Growth is about consistency, not perfection.
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Let’s normalize what growth really looks like in this season:
• Saying no to a toxic friendship
• Going to therapy for the first time at 50
• Losing 20 pounds in a sustainable, healthy way
• Getting back into dating
• Signing up for a business course
• Hiring a coach to help with your next chapter
• Wearing bold lipstick after a decade of beige
These things might seem small—but they are powerful acts of growth.
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💪 Wellness & Weight Loss
Instead of: “I’ve always been overweight.”
Say: “I’m learning to fuel and move my body in ways that feel good.”
Track effort, not the scale.
💼 Career & Purpose
Instead of: “It’s too late to change careers.”
Say: “I’m discovering what lights me up and how I can serve.”
Pivoting is a superpower in midlife.
💵 Finances
Instead of: “I’m not good with money.”
Say: “I’m learning how to manage and grow my money.”
You can become financially free at ANY age. (I paid off $32K starting at 45!)
💖 Relationships
Instead of: “I always pick the wrong people.”
Say: “I’m learning to choose myself first and build deeper connections.”
Healthy boundaries are growth, too.
Write freely and without judgment:
1.What am I ready to unlearn?
2.Where have I grown the most in the past 5 years?
3.What limiting belief am I ready to release?
4.What small risk can I take this week to prove I’m growing?
5.What am I most proud of right now?
Listen, friend—your glow-up doesn’t begin with a new outfit, a new diet, or a new job.
It begins with a new belief:
That you are capable of more. That you are worthy of more. That your story is still being written.
A growth mindset is a practice—not a personality trait.
You build it by showing up, trying again, loving yourself through the hard parts, and choosing to believe in who you’re becoming.
I’m living proof that it’s never too late to change your life.
And it all starts with the thoughts you think.
So let me leave you with this:
“You are not stuck. You are simply in the process of becoming.”
—Jax Stys
💌 Want More Growth Energy?
➡️ Subscribe to my newsletter at www.jaxstys.com
➡️ Tune in to The Midlife Glow Report podcast every Monday.
➡️ DM me on Instagram @jaxstys and let me know how YOU are growing!
📚 Recommended Reading Recap
• Mindset by Carol Dweck
• The High 5 Habit by Mel Robbins
• The Mountain Is You by Brianna Wiest
🎧 Podcast Boosts
• The Life Coach School Podcast – Brooke Castillo
• On Purpose – Jay Shetty
• The Midlife Glow Report – with yours truly
Age 49, Down 200 lbs naturally.
90 more pounds to loose.
My early 6am Saturday morning routine including stretching, strength training, quick breakfast and walking.
Wake 5am
Hydrate
Wash Face
Brush Teeth
Check Emails
Dress
Stretch
Vibration Plate
Gym 6am
Weight Machines
Sauna
Breakfast-Cold Brew Black & Egg Bites
Home
News
Walk Outside
Then 8am ready for the day 👟♥️😘
Come follow and join the party for real life midlife motivation and inspiration in wellness, weight loss, mindset and lifestyle.
Soon to come a midlife women`s glow-up online community and glow-up retreats in Charleston SC.
Podcast - The Midlife Glowgetter
Website: www.jaxstys.com
Free Newsletter & Guides in link in bio.
Soon to come glowgetter retreats in SC & CO.
Oh and remember it is never too late to create a life and lifestyle you love.
Live a life you’d want to live twice.
Love, Jax
#womenover40
#midlifereinvention
#weightlossjourney
#transformyourlife
#midlifewomen
I have lost 200 lbs naturally.
I have obtained a new corporate position make $35k more per year in project management and this is what I`m implementing at my in person job for wellness, longevity and weight loss.
✅ stand-up desk
✅ elliptical under the desk
I am going to search for a stand-up desk on facebook marketplace to save money. I am going to get a life pro elliptical from Amazon.
Hope this helps anyone looking to improve their health while having a sedentary job.
I have another 90 lbs to lose and hopefully this will help some to get me there.
Follow me for real life midlife, women over 40 motivation and inspiration in wellness, weight loss, mindset and lifestyle.
Podcast - The Midlife Glowgetter
Website: www.jaxstys.com
Free Newsletter & Guides in link in bio.
Soon to come glowgetter retreats in SC & CO.
Oh and remember it is never too late to create a life and lifestyle you love.
Live a life you’d want to live twice.
Love, Jax
#womenover40
#midlifereinvention
#wellnessjourney
#healthylifestyle
#midlifewomen
Please answer the poll, I need your help.
If you could create your dream life in midlife what would you focus on the most?
Age 49, Down 200 lbs naturally, paid down $45k in debt, new career in project management, life coach certified. This is by far my best, highest and most productive season of my life.
Midlife-My best season yet...
Come follow and join the party for real life motivation and inspiration in wellness, weight loss, mindset and lifestyle.
Soon to come a midlife women`s glow-up online community and glow-up retreats in Charleston SC.
Podcast - The Midlife Glowgetter
Website: www.jaxstys.com
Free Newsletter & Guides in link in bio.
Soon to come glowgetter retreats in SC & CO.
Oh and remember it is never too late to create a life and lifestyle you love.
Live a life you’d want to live twice.
Love, Jax
#womenover40
#midlifereinvention
#weightlossjourney
#healthylifestyle
#midlifewomen
Age 49, Down 200 lbs naturally, paid down $45k in debt, new career in project management, life coach certified. This is by far my best, highest and most productive season of my life.
Midlife-My best season yet...
Come follow and join the party for real life motivation and inspiration in wellness, weight loss, mindset and lifestyle.
Soon to come a midlife women`s glow-up online community and glow-up retreats in Charleston SC.
Podcast - The Midlife Glowgetter
Website: www.jaxstys.com
Free Newsletter & Guides in link in bio.
Soon to come glowgetter retreats in SC & CO.
Oh and remember it is never too late to create a life and lifestyle you love.
Live a life you’d want to live twice.
Love, Jax
#womenover40
#midlifereinvention
#glowupafter40
#transformyourlife
#midlifewomen
Starting to plan a trip solo to Charleston SC in January or February.
Flying this time.
Now is my time and I`m going to make each moment count.
Follow me for real life motivation and inspiration in wellness, weight loss, mindset and lifestyle.
I hope you have an amazing day today and I look forward to meeting you in my future community, retreats or here online in the comments.
Podcast - The Midlife Glowgetter
Website: www.jaxstys.com
Free Newsletter & Guides in link in bio.
Soon to come glowgetter retreats in SC & CO.
Oh and remember it is never too late to create a life and lifestyle you love.
Live a life you’d want to live twice.
Love, Jax
#womenover40
#midlifereinvention
#glowupafter40
#transformyourlife
#midlifewomen
Midlife awakening and midlife reinvention I a real thing.
I did not have a midlife crisis…I had a midlife glow-up.
I have lost nearly 200 lbs mostly naturally.
I have paid off over $45K in debt as a single mom, single income household with a son away in college.
I have obtained a new corporate position make $35k more per year.
I have become a certified life coach by The Life Coach School.
All of these milestones the last 4 years have completely upgraded my confidence and mindset and growth as a woman over 40.
I feel like I have really come to my own and created my dream life. I am still working and creating my dream life everyday.
I have another 90 more pounds to loose. I want to work on certifications for my career and here online. Nutrition and Wellness Certifications I am working on with NASM. I want to become a Master Certified Life Coach.
I want to continue to help women over 40 all over the world to create the life of their dreams with support and a strong community. I want to create a monthly paid online community and app and in-person midlife glow-up retreats. I want to reach more women on my free podcast and free weekly newsletter.
I want to help you, my friend.
Follow me for real life motivation and inspiration in wellness, weight loss, mindset and lifestyle.
I hope you have an amazing day today and I look forward to meeting you in my future community, retreats or here online in the comments.
Podcast - The Midlife Glowgetter
Website: www.jaxstys.com
Free Newsletter & Guides in link in bio.
Soon to come glowgetter retreats in SC & CO.
Oh and remember it is never too late to create a life and lifestyle you love.
Live a life you’d want to live twice.
Love, Jax
#womenover40
#midlifereinvention
#glowupafter40
#transformyourlife
#midlifewomen
I lost 198 lbs in the last 4 years naturally as a single mom, working full time in corporate finance.
I was on weight loss medication for 3 months, got off it because of cost and side effects.
I have anther 90 lbs to go to reach my goal weight.
Back at the gym after 3 months off.
Hope this helps someone move their body today.
Follow for midlife wellness, lifestyle, & mindset inspiration and motivation.
Love, Jax
#midlifewellness #weightlossjourney #womenover40 #healthylifestyle #midlifereinvention
I lost 198 lbs in the last 4 years naturally as a single mom, working full time in corporate finance.
I was on weight loss medication for 3 months, got off it because of cost and side effects.
I have anther 90 lbs to go to reach my goal weight.
This is my meal plan for 9/14-9/18.
Hope this helps..
Follow for midlife wellness, lifestyle, & mindset inspiration and motivation.
Love, Jax
#midlifewellness #weightlossjourney #womenover40 #healthylifestyle #midlifereinvention
Your subconscious mind is always listening. Every thought you repeat becomes a belief. Every belief becomes your reality. If you keep focusing on what`s missing, the bank account, the age, the excuses, that`s exactly what you`ll keep creating more of.
These were my early morning thoughts this morning on my sunrise walk in the Metroparks here near Cleveland Ohio.
I hope you have an amazing day today.
Podcast - The Midlife Glowgetter
Website: www.jaxstys.com
Free Newsletter & Guides in link in bio.
Soon to come glowgetter retreats in SC & CO.
Follow to get inspired to transform and reinvent into the woman of your dreams.
It is never too late!
Love, Jax
#womenover40
#midlifereinvention
#glowupafter40
#transformyourlife
#midlifewomen
I lost 200 lbs in the last 4 years naturally as a single mom, working full time in corporate finance.
I was on weight loss medication for 3 months, got off it because of cost and side effects.
I have anther 80 lbs to go to reach my goal weight.
My supplements I take:
Loam Fiber Powder, Electroytes (sugar free), Pearl Powder in Water with Ice.
Lifecykel Mushroom Oils in black expresso
Vitamin D3K2
Omega 3
Fatty 15
NMN
Floraster Probiotic
Today’s Food
Breakfast: Homemade Protein Bars (27g protein, 12g finer, 6g sugar)
Lunch: Chipotle Chicken (Costco), cilantro lime cauliflower rice
Dinner: Factor Meal with Fresh Blueberries
Movement Today:
4:30am
Stretching
Vibration Plate
Arm-Dumbbells
Squats
Lunges
Disstastis Recti
Walk 35 min. (Japanese Style)
12:30pm After Lucnh
Walk 20 min. (Japanese Style)
6pm After Dinner
Walk 20 min. (Japanese Style)
8pm
Thigh Master 20 min. while reading/watching tv
Follow for midlife wellness, lifestyle, & mindset inspiration and motivation.
Love, Jax
#midlifewellness #weightlossjourney #womenover40 #healthylifestyle #midlifereinvention
I lost 200 lbs in the last 4 years naturally as a single mom, working full time in corporate finance.
I was on weight loss medication for 3 months, got off it because of cost and side effects.
I have anther 80 lbs to go to reach my goal weight.
My supplements I take:
Loam Fiber Powder, Electroytes (sugar free), Pearl Powder in Water with Ice.
Lifecykel Mushroom Oils in black expresso
Vitamin D3K2
Omega 3
Fatty 15
NMN
Floraster Probiotic
Today’s Food
Breakfast: Homemade Protein Bars (27g protein, 12g finer, 6g sugar)
Lunch: Chipotle Chicken (Costco), cilantro lime cauliflower rice
Dinner: Factor Meal with Fresh Blueberries
Movement Today:
4:30am
Stretching
Vibration Plate
Arm-Dumbbells
Squats
Lunges
Walk 35 min. (Japanese Style)
12:30pm After Lucnh
Walk 20 min. (Japanese Style)
6pm After Dinner
Walk 20 min. (Japanese Style)
8pm
Thigh Master 20 min. while reading/watching tv
Follow for midlife wellness, lifestyle, & mindset inspiration and motivation.
Love, Jax
#midlifewellness #weightlossjourney #womenover40 #healthylifestyle #midlifereinvention
I lost 200 lbs in the last 4 years naturally as a single mom, working full time in corporate finance.
I was on Zepbound for 3 months, got off it because of cost and side effects.
I have anther 80 lbs to go to reach my goal weight.
My supplements I take:
Loam Fiber Powder, Electroytes (sugar free), Pearl Powder in Water with Ice.
Lifecykel Mushroom Oils in black expresso
Vitamin D3K2
Omega 3
Fatty 15
NMN
Probiotic/Prebiotic
Today’s Food
Breakfast: Homemade Protein Bars (27g protein, 12g finer, 6g sugar)
Lunch: Chipotle Chicken (Costco), cilantro lime cauliflower rice
Dinner: Factor Meal with Asparagus
Movement Today:
4:30am
Stretching
Vibration Plate
Arm-Dumbbells
Squats
Lunges
Walk 35 min. (Japanese Style)
12:30pm
Walk 20 min. (Japanese Style)
6pm
Walk 20 min. (Japanese Style)
8pm
Thigh Master 20 min. while reading/watching tv
Follow for Midlife wellness, lifestyle, & mindset inspiration and motivation.
Love, Jax
#midlifewellness #weightlossjourney #womenover40 #healthylifestyle #midlifereinvention
High-protein breakfast bars that don’t taste like cardboard? Say less. 🍫✨
I’ve been perfecting these homemade protein bars for a long time and I’m finally sharing the recipe — 25g protein, 12g fiber, and 5g creatine per bar, made with clean ingredients like peanut butter, cashew butter, and no added sugar. Basically breakfast met dessert and they had a baby.
Perfect for busy mornings, post-workout fuel, or when you need a midlife-metabolism-friendly snack that actually keeps you full. No fancy equipment, no baking — just mix, press, chill, and go.
Follow me for more high protein recipes, gut health tips, and midlife wellness hacks (minus the boring stuff nobody asked for).
Comment “RECIPE” below and I’ll send you the full tecipe with all ingredient links! 💌
#womenover40 #CleanEatingRecipes #ProteinSnacks #MidlifeWellness #healthylifestyle
✨ Make Midlife Your Best Chapter!
Daily glow chat...
How I make midlife my best chapter yet.
Here are my tip for you:
Be more spontaneous 🎉
I am here to be a light in a season that can be looked at as stressful and lonely and depressing.
This should not be the case.
These tips are a field guide for the empty-nest, midlife, reinvention-ready woman.
🌸 Let`s glow in midlife together...
Love, Jax
#midlifewomen
#transformyourlife
#womenover40
#emptynest
#midlifejourney
✨ Make Midlife Your Best Chapter!
Daily glow chat...
How I make midlife my best chapter yet.
Here are my tip for you:
Redesign your home 🏡
I am here to be a light in a season that can be looked at as stressful and lonely and depressing.
This should not be the case.
These tips are a field guide for the empty-nest, midlife, reinvention-ready woman.
🌸 Let`s glow in midlife together...
Love, Jax
#midlifewomen
#transformyourlife
#womenover40
#emptynest
#midlifejourney
#travelandlifestyle #traveldiaries #midlifelifestyle #over40lifestyle #midlifetravel
I lost over 190 lbs, paid off $45K in debt, and completely rebuilt my life starting at 44, as a single mom, working full time in corporate finance.
…Why follow me
Real talk on health/weight loss after 40 that isn`t extreme or unsustainable
Money and debt payoff strategies that work on a real income, not a trust fund
Mindset and self-development tools from actual coaching training, not just platitudes
A peek into real estate/investing as you build that path too
A little style, beauty, and confidence-building along the way
The podcast and newsletter (The Midlife GlowGetter) and blog as the deeper-dive home base - check out my link in bio.
Follow along — this is just the beginning of my best chapter, and I want you to have yours too.
Love, Jax
#midlifewomen
#transformyourlife
#womenover40
#emptynest
#midlifejourney
Make Midlife Your Best Chapter!
Daily glow chat...
How I make midlife my best chapter yet.
Here are my tip for you:
1 Guard your calendar 📆
I am here to be a light in a season that can be looked at as stressful and lonely and depressing.
This should not be the case.
These tips are a field guide for the empty-nest, midlife, reinvention-ready woman.
Let`s glow in midlife together...
Love, Jax
#midlifewomen
#transformyourlife
#womenover40
#emptynest
#midlifejourney
Down 199 lbs naturally in my 40’s.
Paid down $45k in debt.
This is how I transformed my midlife.
Now empty nester & single. I’m still not done. 80 more lbs to go. Want to create a community of like minded midlife women wanting to transform their life into the life of their dreams.
Podcast - The Midlife Glowgetter
Website: www.jaxstys.com
Free Newsletter & Guides in link in bio.
Soon to come glowgetter retreats in SC & CO.
Follow to get inspired to transform and reinvent into the woman of your dreams.
It is never too late!
Love, Jax
#womenover40
#midlifereinvention
#glowupafter40
#transformyourlife
#midlifewomen
