Hey beautiful friends—it’s Jax Stys here, your midlife reinvention coach, and today I’m talking about one of the most powerful shifts you can ever make in your life, your mindset.
I just revisited Mindset by Carol Dweck, and let me tell you—this book is a game changer. It’s not about talent. It’s not about luck. It’s about what you believe is possible for you.
The core idea?
You either believe your abilities are fixed…
Or you believe they can grow.
And that belief? It shapes everything.
Let’s break it down:
A Fixed Mindset says,
“I’m either good at this or I’m not.”
“I failed, so I must not be capable.”
It avoids challenges, hates feedback, and feels threatened by other people’s success.
But a Growth Mindset?
It says, “I can learn this.”
“This failure is feedback.”
It leans into the hard stuff, loves learning, and believes effort builds strength.
Dweck says:
“Becoming is better than being.”
And as someone deep in the middle of a midlife glow-up—I feel that in my bones.
Let’s talk about how this shows up in real life:
In school or learning: Growth mindset students get better grades, bounce back after setbacks, and don’t quit when things get hard.
In sports: The best athletes aren’t just gifted—they practice, they fail, they persist. Grit + mindset = greatness.
In work and leadership: Growth mindset leaders build stronger teams. They invite feedback. They don’t need to be the smartest person in the room—they’re there to grow.
In relationships: Instead of “if it’s meant to be it should be easy,” a growth mindset says, “We’re in this together. Let’s grow through it.”
And in parenting: Don’t praise intelligence. Praise effort. Praise courage. Praise strategy. That’s how we raise resilient humans.
Now let’s talk practice, because mindset isn’t a theory. It’s a muscle:
• Embrace challenges.
• Reframe failure: “What did I learn?”
• Celebrate effort, not just outcomes.
• Use “yet”: “I can’t do this… yet.”
• Model growth—show your journey.
• Ask: “What can I do differently next time?”
Here are some beautiful reminders from Carol:
“The view you adopt for yourself profoundly affects the way you live.”
“Effort ignites ability and turns it into accomplishment.”
And my favorite:
“Becoming is better than being.”
So let me ask you, love:
• Where in your life are you stuck in a fixed mindset?
• What would shift if you believed you could learn instead of needing to prove?
• Who would you become if you let effort, not fear, lead the way?
Because this isn’t about being perfect—it’s about growing into the woman you’re meant to be.
Midlife isn’t a dead end, it’s a fresh beginning.
And with the right mindset? There’s no limit to what you can do.
You’re not stuck. You’re just getting started.
With love, belief, and growth,
—Jax
A Must-Read for Midlife Women Ready to Grow, Reinvent, and Rise Higher Than Ever Before
If you’re a woman over 40 who feels like you’ve hit a wall—or you’re finally ready to stop holding back and start living your biggest, most beautiful life, this book may be the mindset shift you didn’t know you needed.
Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Dr. Carol S. Dweck isn’t just a psychology classic, it’s a life manual for anyone who wants to unlock their full potential. And let me tell you, reading this during my midlife reinvention changed how I see everything: my goals, my relationships, my past failures, and my future self.
This book doesn’t ask who you are. It asks: Who are you willing to become?
The Big Idea: Fixed Mindset vs. Growth Mindset
At the heart of Mindset is one simple but profound truth:
“Your beliefs, about your abilities, your potential, and your worth, shape your life far more than your actual talent does.”
Here’s the breakdown:
Fixed Mindset | Growth Mindset |
Believes ability is fixed | Believes ability can be developed |
Avoids challenges | Embraces challenges |
Fears failure | Sees failure as feedback |
Gives up easily | Persists through obstacles |
Seeks validation | Seeks learning and mastery |
Threatened by others’ success | Inspired by others’ success |
If you’ve ever told yourself “I’m just not good at this,” “It’s too late for me,” or “I failed, so I must not be cut out for it”—that’s a fixed mindset talking. But the good news? Mindsets are learned. Which means they can also be unlearned.
The Fixed Mindset
According to Dweck, people with a fixed mindset believe their talents and intelligence are carved in stone. They spend their lives trying to prove themselves rather than improve themselves.
This mindset often leads to:
•Avoiding challenges
•Blaming others
•Hiding mistakes
•Giving up too soon
•Fear of feedback
Sound familiar? For many midlife women, this mindset develops after years of people-pleasing, perfectionism, and fear of failing publicly.
The Growth Mindset
“Becoming is better than being.”
The growth mindset is rooted in the belief that you can grow, change, and evolve, at any age. Your brain is not done developing, and neither are you.
With this mindset, effort isn’t shameful, it’s sacred. Feedback isn’t criticism—it’s guidance. Failure isn’t the end, it’s the beginning of mastery.
For midlife women like us, the growth mindset is a lifeline. Because you’re not starting over—you’re rising up.
1. Mindset in Learning
Growth-minded students outperform their peers because they try longer, bounce back, and use failure as fuel.
As adult learners (hello new careers, certifications, fitness journeys, and hobbies!), we must unlearn “I’m too old” and re-learn “I’m just getting started.”
2. Mindset in Sports
What separates legends like Serena Williams or Michael Jordan isn’t talent, it’s grit. Effort, practice, and perseverance make champions.
This applies to your weight loss goals, your mobility, and even your relationship with your body. Growth mindset in fitness means you celebrate progress, not perfection.
3. Mindset at Work
Fixed mindset leaders need to look smart. Growth mindset leaders want to get better.
They embrace feedback, build strong teams, and don’t crumble under pressure.
If you’re launching a new business, climbing the corporate ladder, or pivoting careers at 50, this is your competitive edge.
4. Mindset in Relationships
“If it’s meant to be, it should be easy.” ← That’s a fixed mindset.
Growth-minded love says: “Let’s grow together.”
In midlife, whether you’re navigating divorce, dating again, or deepening long-term love, this shift will save your heart. It allows for honest conversations, grace through conflict, and the belief that emotional skills can be learned.
5. Mindset in Parenting (and Grandparenting)
If you want to raise resilient kids (or grandkids), praise effort, not intelligence.
Say:
•“You worked hard on that.”
•“What strategy did you use?”
•“You didn’t give up. I love that.”
Midlife women are often mentors, caregivers, and legacy-builders. Modeling a growth mindset is a gift to future generations.
How to Build a Growth Mindset (Even If You’ve Lived with a Fixed One)
Mindset isn’t a personality trait. It’s a muscle—and you can strengthen it daily.
Growth Practice | Description |
Embrace Challenges | Say yes to things that scare you—on purpose. |
Reframe Failure | “This didn’t work. What can I learn?†|
Celebrate Effort | Progress > Perfection |
Ask Better Questions | “What can I do differently next time?†|
Use the Power of Yet | Add “yet†to every self-limiting statement. |
Model It Out Loud | Share your own failures and how you grew from them. |
My Favorite Quotes from Carol Dweck
“Becoming is better than being.”
“No matter what your ability is, effort is what ignites that ability and turns it into accomplishment.”
“The view you adopt for yourself profoundly affects the way you lead your life.”
“Test scores and measures of achievement tell you where a person is—not where they could end up.”
Real-Life Growth Mindset Role Models
Person | Growth Mindset Moment |
Michael Jordan | Cut from varsity team—trained harder instead of quitting |
Oprah Winfrey | Fired from her first job—turned it into a media empire |
Thomas Edison | “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.†|
Carol Dweck | Spent decades evolving her research—and practicing what she preaches |
1.Where in my life do I still carry a fixed mindset?
2.What challenge have I been avoiding because I fear not being “good enough”?
3.What’s one area I’ve grown in recently—through effort?
4.What’s something I once thought I couldn’t do… that I do now?
5.What’s one bold step I can take this week to practice the growth mindset?
💖 Final Thoughts: Why Mindset Belongs on Every Midlife Woman’s Shelf
This book is not just for students or educators. It’s for every woman who is learning how to rise after a setback, how to rebuild after heartbreak, how to reinvent after years of self-neglect.
Your brain is still growing.
Your life is still unfolding.
You are still becoming.
And Mindset reminds us:
“Success is not a one-time event. It’s a lifelong process of growth, curiosity, and courage.”
If you’ve been stuck, doubting, or playing small—read this book. Let it rewire your thoughts. Let it renew your hope. Let it be the start of your boldest season yet.
Because midlife isn’t a crisis.
It’s a calling.
And with a growth mindset? You can answer it with power, purpose, and possibility.
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With love, belief, and growth,
—Jax
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